If you are single Christian who have been asking this frustrating question: why am I still single? Then here are some of the top relationship experts to help you.
For more info on why you are still single see Dr. Wyatt full article: http://www.christiancrush.com/
Honestly, you cannot control the season you are in; you also have to accept the season God sees fit for you now. Additionally, you have to be mindful of comparing what is seen as “interested” to others. This is what I mean:
1. Sometimes we are in a season in our lives where God wants us focused on Him and only Him. If no one is showing interest in you just accept it and use that time to focus your energy on God and your relationship with Him. Pursue God and get to know him the way you pursue a guy when you are dating. Also, trust God. It may be God’s will for you to marry or it may not. Talk to Him about this and ask God to help you be content in His decision.
2. Don’t compare “interest” or “attention” to what others may have. You may be seeing some of your friends or associates going on multiple dates, having relationships or constantly in contact with someone. But not all attention is good attention. Don’t idolize others you are seeing around you as if you are missing out on something. Quality is better than Quantity.
3. Also, do you think you are attractive or do you feel someone would never be interested in you? Your thoughts are exuded in your actions. You are a beautiful woman and you have to believe that for yourself. Confidence attracts others. The real question is “Do you believe you are desirable or attractive?”…the answer should be a resounding yes! And don’t measure your attractiveness based off of how many guys try to get your attention. Know that within yourself you are attractive and if God’s will, the right man will love you and want to pursue you.
That’s a really important question that I get so often from many women.
I attract the wrong men. I always get approached by men who are not interested in a stable relationship. I always seem to get approached only by the types of men I don’t want. Is there something wrong with me?
I hear that from women quite a bit. Even good, datable, “marriage material” type of women.
Why is that? What is really going on? Is it really true that you only attract these type of men?
You are not ONLY attracting the wrong men. You are attracting all types of men. It’s just that many times, the right men are not the first to come up to you: You go to church, a party, an event and yes…the first 5 guys that come up to you are so wrong for you. So tell yourself there are no good men there or that you just seem to attract the wrong men.
You know what happens next? Your disposition changes. You start to get frustrated, your face starts to say “don’t even come up to me”. You start to look unapproachable and yes…you guessed it: The right guy…who has been observing you from a distance, decides not to approach you.
In fact, sometimes the better you are, the more you will attract all kinds of men. Now that DOES NOT mean that you may not have to make changes in how you present yourself or how you think… it just means that you are not necessarily the problem.
Why does it seem that the wrong ones are always the first to approach you?
To read Tobi’s full article on this important issue go here
WRONG MEN WHO ARE QUICK TO APPROACH YOU VS MEN WHO TAKE THEIR TIME IS LIKE COMPARING LIONS TO CHEETAHS.
–LIONS ARE SLOWER IN THE CHASE BUT MORE POWERFUL ON IMPACT
–LIONS DEPEND ON THEIR STRENGTH, CHEETAHS DEPEND ON THEIR SPEED
-LIONS ONLY HUNT LARGE PREY, CHEETAHS HUNT SMALL PREY
–LIONS GET CLOSER BEFORE THEY MAKE A MOVE, CHEETAHS CHASE EARLIER BECAUSE THEY HAVE THE SPEED
-LIONS WILL PUT IN THE WORK FOR A FEAST…NEVER FOR A SNACK
–CHEETAHS WILL EXERT MASSIVE ENERGY TO CATCH WHAT THE LION CONSIDERS A SNACK.
SO…DO YOU WANT A LION OR DO YOU WANT A CHEETAH?
There are many reasons why people end up being single even when they don’t want to be.
In this article we will explore one of the main reason you might become part of the population of the land of singledom.
Before I tell you about that however, let me tell you the story of Hilary. She is now 35. She lives in a beautiful apartment in the city where she works as an accountant. She tells me she hates going home to an empty house and would really like to find someone whom she could share her soul with. She wants to love and be loved.
She says the only men who approach her are men in their 50’s, many of whom are divorced. Interestingly it was not always so.
Hilary was a beautiful young woman. She still retains much of her former glory in her hour-glass figure, long flowing hair and smooth dark skin.
In her 20,s men were always prepositioning her. In fact she had a hard time walking down the road without being leered at or whistled to. However during that time she was so focussed on her studies and profession that she turned down everyone who wanted to have a relationship with her. She thought that it would be a distraction ( her mum always warned her that education and love can’t mix). In fact deep down she there was also a faint notion that there may even be better options out there.
Now many of the young men who would have made a good match for her are now married and settled with their families. Hilary would look enviously at the wives of these men knowing that she could have been in that position.
This brings me to some of the main reasons why people like Hillary eventually end up alone.